The Most Important Response


If you’re anything like me, words can play a major role in your day-to-day life. Some words can leave you in a state of ecstasy; walking on clouds wherever you go. Some can tear you down to a point where the clouds you once walked on now pour on you with a vindictive pleasure. The fact of the matter is: words are often inescapable for better or worse; however, far more important is how we choose to press forward whether uplifting or harmful words are spoken.

Often, I will pour over words again and again in my head: “What did he mean by that?”…”I can’t believe I just said that”…”Nailed it!!” All the time wondering whether those were the “right” words to say. Dale Carnegie has a quote that resonates: “You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world’s happiness now. How? By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged. Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime.” In light of this quote, I hope to put forth a challenge to say that the “right” words are the ones that are truly sincere and kind no matter the circumstance! When we find ourselves searching for the words to tell-off our frustrating boss, or our unruly customer, or even our friends - maybe it’s time for us to share a kind word and hope that its impact will start a ripple effect to flow into others’ lives around us.

One question we can ask ourselves on a daily basis is “how can I be a blessing on other’s lives?” With a thankful heart we can be that blessing and use the power of words to speak into another’s life by sharing a kind word. Often times we don’t understand the impact that we can have on another human being so we choose to say nothing in response. So before you decide that your words don’t matter I will leave you with this quote in hopes that you will take it to heart:

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” –Desmond TuTu

Nick Anderson is a Guest Writer & Support for The Authenticity Project, you can contact Nick at